I'm sorry I'm a day late in wishing a Happy Mother's Day to everyone, but the sight was down for me to blog yesterday, so I am writing today.
The evening before Mother's Day I was up in the middle of the night and by the light of Jack's flashlight (miner's headlight) I wrote this:
To all the Mom’s I know,
To all the Mom’s I’ve briefly met,
To all the Mom’s I will one day meet,
To all my friends,
From the time we are little girls to the moment we conceive, as women we start to imagine and envision our child’s life.
We first start with finding the perfect name, that may change several times before the child is even thought of,
Then, we envision what goofy outfit we’re going to bring our new bundle of joy home in from the hospital, for one day the child to say “Why did you dress me in that?”
We envision baptism or other first religious traditions.
We envision the first corny Halloween costume that one day our kids will say “What were you thinking?”
We envision the first day of kindergarten, grade school, little league or ballet, their first date, the prom, college, their life long career, their wedding day.
We wonder who they would one day marry and try to arrange a few.
Our son’s we pray for a wonderful women and our daughter's a wonderful man.
But most of all we pray for a wonderful mother to our grandchildren.
We never envision,
The first cut or scrape,
The first band aid,
The first fever,
The first time they spit up,
The first run to the emergency room,
We never imagine illness, speech delays, learning disabilities or handicaps,
We always envision the “perfect child”, the child next door.
We never imagine the heartache and pain and of course never imagine death.
Whatever disabilities, illness or handicap, our children are still “perfect”.
We, as women, have the strength of a man but we have emotion and finesse,
We endure what life brings to us.
We find strength to care for our children through whatever life hands us.
There are women who have never had children, for whatever reason, who still have that “mother’s intuition” which is the “strength” that we are given and as women through birth of our children or through adoption we take on the title “Mom” and we can conquer the world.
Everyday we hope and pray that we’ve made the right choices for ourselves, our family and our friends.
We are women, all sizes, shapes and colors.
We are Strength.
Happy Mother’s day to all of us,
Mother’s, with or without children,
Women, who Imagine and Envision,
Women of Strength.
Written by, Charlotte Hagelin 5/13/07 at 3:30am when I couldn’t sleep.
Comments (10)
Charlotte...
I was just watching yoru story on TLC. I looked up your son's illness to see what there can be done for the little guy and I am sitting here in tears just finding out that he passed away. I am so sorry. I am so sorry. I know there is nothing that I can do for you or your family but I will contribute what I can to the cause to sure others like him. You are such strong people. I admire your strength.....I am so sorry. Bless your hearts and that of your little angel. Your story is so touching......I hope it brings you some peace to know there are many people who want to help....those you don't even know because we care......
Again...I am so sorry....my prayers are with you all.
Christine Bentley
Orange County, California
Posted by Christine Bentley | May 17, 2007 6:33 AM
Posted on May 17, 2007 06:33
ms. charlotte i just read this, you are really a work of art. i never would have thought to say any of those words. YOU ROCK that should be in a card in a store. thank you and happy mother's day.
Posted by kia | May 16, 2007 11:53 PM
Posted on May 16, 2007 23:53
WOW!! You truly blow me away. I have known you for so long, but in these past 4 1/2 years I feel as if a whole other woman was born. You could have taken Mother's Day and had a pitty party and no one would have said a thing, instead you celebrated being a mother, a daughter and a friend. Your words have touched me. Definately inspiring. Who knew you had such talent!
Posted by Julie | May 16, 2007 3:07 AM
Posted on May 16, 2007 03:07
Charlotte,
You are an amazing woman of strength and courage! It truly takes someone very special and devoted to be able to write something so beautiful and heartfelt. Jack is our "Special Angel" and you, Roy and Christina have a very special place in our hearts too.
Love,
Jenn
Posted by Jenn Zampino | May 16, 2007 12:51 AM
Posted on May 16, 2007 00:51
Charlotte,
Happy Mother's Day to you as well. I thought about you on Sunday and knew that this would be a difficult day. But it is also a special day because Christina and Jack are the reasons you celebrate it. Jack was an amazing child and you, Charlotte, are an amazing mom. I am in awe of your kindness, strength, patience, persistence and most of all your never-ending love for your entire family. I hope that you are able to find peace and happiness some day knowing that you raised a beautiful child and you have a daughter to be so proud of as well. Take care and know that you and your family are in my prayers always.
Love
Linda Burger
Posted by Linda Burger | May 15, 2007 9:35 PM
Posted on May 15, 2007 21:35
Charlotte,
These words touched my heart.
I shared them with the entire staff.
Love to you all,
Linda
Posted by Linda Schneider | May 15, 2007 4:01 PM
Posted on May 15, 2007 16:01
Char, That was beautiful! You are a very strong women! I could only hope to have your strength one day!!!
Love ya!
Patty
Posted by Patty (Manson - as you will always call me) | May 14, 2007 11:36 PM
Posted on May 14, 2007 23:36
Charlotte, You've expressed what it really is to be a mother. POwerful writing. Lovely thoughts for all women. I'll call you in a little while to chat. In the meaantime know you and Roy and Christina are in my prayers daily. God will give you the strength you need. I'm sure you feel it every day. Love, Aunt Peggy
Posted by Aunt Peggy & Uncle Ronnie | May 14, 2007 7:58 PM
Posted on May 14, 2007 19:58
Char,
Didn't know you could write so beautifully. I'm sharing it with others.
Posted by Sondra Paulson | May 14, 2007 7:46 PM
Posted on May 14, 2007 19:46
Char,
That was such a lovely read. You are so talented! It brought tears to my eyes. I hope in spite of everything, you had a wonderful
Mother's Day!
Love ya,
Lisa
Posted by Lisa | May 14, 2007 6:39 PM
Posted on May 14, 2007 18:39